On our first date, we laughed a lot. You smiled at me with this biggest grin, and you knew it. You knew that in that moment we both fell in love with each other. It was a perfect moment. And, at the same time, it was intense because we didn’t know what was to come. As I think back from that moment to now, every minute I had with you was perfect. I looked up the definition of perfect and it says to be correct all the time,and having no mistakes or flaws. And clearly, before we met, I would have said that I met that criteria to a T. However, after our years together, you have redefined what perfect means to me. Perfect to me is when you sing in the car when you don’t think anyone is listening. Perfect to me is when you make fun of me while I drive over bridges. Perfect to me is when you are actually better at something than me. Perfect to me is taking care of each other when we are sick. I know this might be hard for everyone here, but I will admit that I am not perfect to the definition of having no flaws. Sharing – letting you see my imperfections have made me realize how much I trust you, and how much I am in love with you. You make me feel excited about life. You take out the fear in love and you take the fear out of life for me and for us. You make me feel at ease. You make me feel like I can accomplish anything, but at the same time, you make me feel enough. And Believe this or not, You give me a sense of humility and humbleness. You make me feel loved. I can’t promise that there won’t be any mistakes or flaws that we encounter, but I can promise that I will be perfect in solving them with you. So, today, I am redefining the meaning of perfect. Perfect means being with you through the ups and downs, and tackling it together. Perfect means catching you when you fall. Perfect means enjoying every little moment with you whether its happy or sad. Perfect is today. . .. . Perfect is you.
Before I met you there was one question that people asked me that I never knew how to answer: Where do you see yourself in 5 years? I always looked at the person and thought to myself “how should I know.” Anything can happen in five years. You would think based on my somewhat anal tendencies and my need to plan things that I would be able to answer that question. But nope, never could. Or when people would ask over the years well what kind of wedding do you want when you get married. I had no idea. I was not the girl who dreamed about it or the girl who had a book full of ideas. I always knew that I wanted someone to love me and to love someone and to make a lifetime commitment. It was never about the wedding day, the dress and the flowers, it was about the marriage, the commitment and the love. On our first date, you walked into the restaurant and I saw you and it felt so right. Sounds so corny but I just knew. The whole night was fun and relaxed and it felt so easy being with you. I remember telling Mary the next day on our dog walk, I didn’t want to date anyone else. I said I like him, I really like him. You should have seen the look she gave me. My sister gave me the same look and both of them gave me a few words of advice. But I didn’t listen. I will admit after our first date, I was worried I wouldn’t be good enough for you, smart enough for you. On our second date when I was sick but didn’t want to cancel we went to dinner and then you said the greatest words in the whole world “do you want to go across the street to the bookstore?” I mean how after only one date did you see my love for books and know that would be the perfect place to go? We sat and I had tea and talked about books and life and the night was so very special, my runny nose and all. By our third date, I just knew, there was no one else for me. Now, I will admit that on first New Year’s Eve a few months after we started dating, I was pretty sure my fears about not being smart enough were proven true; I mean who surprises a girl with a romantic treasure hunt where she has to answer questions about the history of New Years???? I ]don’t think I have ever been more nervous or embarrassed! But what makes us special is that you saw the feelings clearly written on my face and you wanted it to be fun and I so wanted to let go of my fears and enjoy the moment with you. So we had a redo and once you convinced me to let go and just be me…the night was perfect. And more importantly on that night and throughout the past two and a half years I learned the truth: I had nothing to worry about I am definitely smarter than you. But I will give you credit that on July 2 nd you made the smartest decision of your life when you asked me to marry you. And in that moment in our backyard surrounded by our jungle, nothing ever felt more right and I have never felt more loved. Shortly after we were engaged and couldn’t decide on a wedding destination you said to me “do you even know what kind of wedding you want?” And for the first time in my life I could answer the question. I thought to myself “yes, I know, I can see it.” Everything came in to focus for me. This day, our wedding day, was clear and more importantly I could finally answer that question that everyone asked me: Where do you see yourself in 5 years… I see my future with you. I see us building a life, following our dreams, having a family with Brody and Jackson and our crazy dogs. I see it and it is beautiful. The reason I couldn’t answer the question before is because the most important piece was missing….YOU. I needed to see my future with the man who sends me love notes when we are apart, the man who the month before our wedding sent me an email everyday counting down the days and telling me all the reasons he loves me. A man who says he doesn’t love our dogs but yet gets up to walk them in the rain, snow and freezing cold. A man who goes to five soccer games in one weekend because he doesn’t want to miss a single moment to be with his kids. A man who is raising two wonderful boys and a man who tries so hard to show me every day that I am loved. A man who pushes me to do more and be more because he pushes himself the same way. A man who on the side of a mountain tells me that we can keep hiking despite our lack of knowledge, no supplies, in gym shoes because he and I both know he would never let anything happen to me. A man who enjoys the Bears game as much as I do, who treats me to Hawks games even though we should be saving our money, A man who accepts that he is better at being romantic than I am, A man who loves spending the day or weekend with me just being alone together doing yard work, running errands or watching House of Cards together. Because in those moments it is just us, being in the pocket. A man who finally allowed me to let down my guard and be myself, because he loves me, imperfections and all. A man who I love, imperfections and all. I see five years, ten years, twenty years and our future is beautiful. I know that things will not always be easy. I know that we will have our ups and downs and there will be noise all around us but I also know that we have a great, strong foundation and that we will fight for each other and with each other against anything that may come our way. Because there is one thing in this whole world that I want more than anything and that is you. There is no greater feeling in the whole world than being in the pocket with you. I love you, Jim.